Love One Another
Once we too, were foolish and disobedient. We were misled and became slaves to many lusts and pleasures. Our lives were full of evil and envy, and we hated each other. But—When God our Savior revealed his kindness and love, He saved us, not because of the righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy.
~ Titus 3:3-5
As children, when the eight of us would gather around the dinner table, it was not uncommon for arguments to erupt. We each upheld our own idea or ideology, which might not have been acceptable to another family member. When the debate would become heated, the spectators would point their hands, with all fingers pointing out, and sing, “Love one another. Love one another. This is the happy way to love one another.”
Sounds nice, right? Well, it really wasn’t. The song was sung with mean faces and hateful tones. The only reason all fingers pointing out was because of dad’s saying, “When you point a finger at someone, there are three pointing back at you.” So we covered our bases and pointed all five. We certainly didn’t want any pointing back to ourselves.
People can disappoint, neglect, anger, and hurt us with their different points of views, making the task to love challenging. There always seems to be that one difficult person to deal with, in the work place, neighborhood, or even church.
The following steps can help us in dealing with difficult people:
First, stand back and stand down. When we stand back, we gain perspective. When we stand down, we are not giving up, but we control the argument. Place the encumbrance this difficult person causes, on God’s shoulders.
Second, remember the kindness God showed to you. We are to, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)
Third, ask for God’s love through you. The hardship of conjuring unobtainable love is out of your hands if you’re willing to be that conduit of love through Christ.
Fourth, pray for your difficult person. Matthew 5:44 says, “I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you.”
Adopting the motto of that silly song is not a bad idea. The arduous road of bitter resentment can set the stage of becoming a difficult person. So opt for the happy approach of life by choosing the roadway of love. As we point our finger at the other person, we should realize that we have three fingers pointing back to us.
Our Forgiving Savior, Thank you for the kindness you have shown to us. In return help us to show kindness one to another. In Your Name, Amen
~ Jenny Calvert